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What Was Special About Today?

June 2, 2014 by Robbie Adkins

Fotolia_61245786_Subscription_Monthly_MI started to write that I do this exercise every day…but I don’t really do it so it wouldn’t be honest…but I want to…and writing this will remind me to START doing it every day. Here it is.

As the sun sets, think back through the day and ponder what was special about this day, this one day of your life. It might be a very simple thing, like you got to pick your favorite new rose from your garden and put it on your husband’s desk. I did that today. I might be that you wrote a supportive email to a friend. I did that today. It might be that you had a meeting about an art show you are helping organize today and your ideas were well received. I did that today.

What else special happened today?

Our neighbors all came together to report a rattlesnake loose in our yards somewhere. Greater than the fear I felt, it felt good that I live in a place where people care for each other.

This morning when I took the dogs out first thing, I was able to sit by the pool and meditate for a bit. That was nice.

The painters are just about finished with the bathroom remodel painting today…BEAUTIFUL work on my 28-year old bathroom…I get to use it tomorrow!

It is a warm and sunny day with a beautiful clear blue sky.

Oh, and I am REALLY enjoying that I get to take the time to write this column today! How lucky is that!

Any one of those things would make today special…and look at how many things that I had to list! Doing this right now, made me feel good on this otherwise ordinary unremarkable day. And that is the point. Wouldn’t we all rather feel good than feel bad! If I hadn’t sat here and thought about it, those little gems of experiences would have floated right out of my existence without me receiving the benefit of them. Rather I might be sitting here worried about deadlines, paying bills, afraid about the snake (not yet found), etc, etc, etc.

What really happens when you do something like this, when you stop to appreciate, is that you shift your energy, shift your “vibes.” For years we have been learning how “like energy” attracts “like energy.” So the more important result of this exercise is that you will, without conscious knowledge or control, attract to you more and more special moments.

Try it for just one week. Set an alarm on your phone or computer, or use the sun as your clock…as it sets, do this exercise. What harm can it do to try it? You don’t have to even tell anyone that you are doing it. Try it along with me and I’ll report the results for me in my next column, two weeks from now! If you want to tell me how it worked for you, please email me at voiceofyoursoul@gmail.com

Can’t wait to hear how it works for you…and can’t wait to see how it feels for me!

Shifting Up From Judgment to Discernment

December 30, 2013 by Robbie Adkins

Most of us fear being judged on some level.  It doesn’t feel good at all, and depending on how much emotion is attached, it can feel really awful.  Most of us, however, tend to do it to other people or events.  While we can’t easily control being judged by others, we can learn to shift what we do ourselves in our daily situations and that can improve the quality of our lives.  It doesn’t mean that you just “accept all that comes your way.”  What it means is that you stand back and try to see what is motivating you to decide if something is right or wrong for you, shifting from judgment to discernment.  Following are some steps you can take to do that, but first let me explain the difference between the two.

Let’s say you are an interior designer. Your client is color blind, but knowing that green will represent “healthy and organic” for his new store, has decided that he wants all the items in a particular room to be green. He can’t see the difference between green and blue. Your job is to select only green items, using your ability to discern between the two colors. There is no emotional judgment involved in this; it is just a simple matter of observation and choices.

But let’s say your mother always dressed you in green when you where a child and everyone in school made fun of you. Now when you look at something that is green, it inspires a negative emotional judgment about the color. It puts your emotional body into negative vibration mode and out of sync with the rest of you. It takes you away from your higher source. If that happens and you are aware of it happening, you have to work at bringing yourself back into balance or spend the rest of the day “out of sorts.”

So if you find yourself “not liking” something, step back and evaluate what is going on with you, what is the reason for the reaction. Ask yourself:

1. Is this opinion based on prior experience about this subject?

2. Does the situation evoke a twinge in my belly?

3. Am I thinking about what OTHERS would think of choosing or not choosing the situation?

4. Have I rationally thought about the pros and cons of this subject?

Too often we have to make snap decisions, and there may not always be time to go through these questions, but if you practice when you have time to ponder something, it will in time become second nature to you and you will run through the questions in a flash of a second. If your answer was “yes” to 2. or 3., it is likely that you are in a state of being judgmental, or having an emotional reaction to the situation that might have nothing to do with the current situation.  So what is wrong with that you ask? You might just make the wrong choice.  You might let some past experience stop you from what could be a very good experience for you…now, with this new situation…not the old one in your emotional memory banks.

When you are pointing your finger at someone else in judgment, energetically you are pointing THREE fingers back at your self. Being more tolerant of people or situations that aren’t living “up to your standards” will not draw those types of people toward you. Not being tolerant just might!  We are learning how our own energy draws certain things to us and repels others. So if you are in a state of being emotionally judgmental, you are going to attract people that are also in that state around you…inviting them to judge you.

Our emotions play a very important role in our lives, as long as they are in balance.  Feeling love and joy are very positive experiences to be sure.  If you are feeling anger or fear, those feelings may be protecting you from something about to cause you harm.  What is good for us to learn is if what we are feeling, be it love or fear, is really about the situation immediately in front of us or about something that happened in our past.  Thinking that you are “in love” with someone who reminds you of a past love can match you up with the wrong person.  If you are in a state of fear, lets say of being fired from your job, if that fear stems from a previous experience when you were actually fired, not this situation, you may react inappropriately and actually get yourself fired again!

Don’t be discouraged if learning to master this “discernment” about your emotions takes some time. But taking the time to try to see the difference can’t help but make your life better, help you make better choices. Just think about it next time you are in a state of judgment.  Run through these four simple questions and see what is really going on with you.  We all have this ability, we just have to

 

Looking for Messages

June 17, 2013 by Robbie Adkins

robbietnLooking back into the misty beginnings of humanity, we have always sought messages to guide us in our life’s decisions. And since that beginning, men and women have believed that those messages came from outside ourselves, from some form of God. Often people played the role of interpreters of those messages. The fortune-tellers, the Shamans, the Medicine Men, the Tarot readers and the Priests have all played that role for us, some better than others. I believe that currently there is a shift in consciousness that is teaching us that WE are the seekers of “magical” messages and we are the best interpreters of our own messages.

How do we attract our messages? The answer is simple and yet complicated at the same time. Many of us believe that the more in touch we are with our soul, our soul purpose, our higher self, the more of those special messages we can and will receive. That is the simple part. The more complicated part is how to make and keep that contact between our soul and our conscious mind. Learning to do that is what our generation is about. Each of us learning to accomplish that is what is pushing consciousness higher for all mankind. The world may seem more chaotic than ever right now, but once this shift is more accepted, things will settle down. Imagine a world free of war!

What we have come to understand is that our subconscious mind listens without judgment or interpretation to what our conscious mind says. Even just our thoughts have more power than we previously believed. For instance, if you keep saying, “I am so fat!” your body or subconscious mind will do all it can to hold on to every extra fat cell it can find. So if you want to have more frequent and quality connections with your higher self or soul, you just need to ask for it. You will be guided to the best method for you. It may be meditation, yoga, or walks in nature. If you ask that every day, you will be guided to the right person, the right book, the right webinar to help you make and keep that line of communication open. There may be many things you can do so never stop making that statement of intent. “Let me be guided to the best technique to connect with my higher self, my soul.” Most likely, you have already started or accomplished that line of communication since you are reading this article!

The next step is to start looking for messages. How do those messages come to you, who directs them; you do. What happens is that you send out a certain unconscious “vibration” and “the Universe” sends matches to that vibration. Like magnets to your thoughts. I think of the Universe as a giant living entity that we are part of. Animals, birds and butterflies can respond to your vibration without their conscious awareness. In fact, that is the world they live in. Modern mankind just forgot about that world, and we are just now remembering it. Native cultures never forgot. That is why it feels so good to be with nature…it is a GREAT vibrational match to our bodies. It is that same energy that helps you draw just the right card out of a deck of message cards. There is an energy inherent in each card, and your fingers, when tuned in, will “feel” the card that has the most appropriate message for you.

I have had many messages from animals that appear around me. Most recently, we have been visited by a giant blue heron. It came to eat the fish in my small fish pond, and it keeps coming back. We have lived here for 10 years and had that fish pond for 6 years. Why is the heron just showing up now? I believe it is telling me that I am on the right path. My career has just taken a new direction and to me this bird is showing up to support that new direction. Another example is that after last winter’s long period of freezing at night, a vine in my yard was covered with dead leaves so I had to trim it way back. That vine is home to a kind of butterfly that lives there year round. They look like small Monarch butterflies. I didn’t see any caterpillars when I did the trimming so I was worried that they wouldn’t come back in the spring since I didn’t think they migrated like Monarchs do. Within an hour of my wondering, there was a butterfly right next to me. I hadn’t seen one for weeks before or after that, so I believe it showed up to ease my mind about the welfare of it’s clan.

The benefit to you for listening to these messages is to make the best decisions for yourself. The road to a better life doesn’t have to be hard; it can and will be easier if you learn to develop this source of guidance that is yours and yours alone. I love to discuss things with my friends, but I understand that I truly am my own best source of guidance. I have made mistakes along the way to be sure, but I always try to learn from them. I hope you find this information helpful and that it takes away some of the fear and mystery we sometimes feel when we get those magical messages!

Your Higher Self

June 17, 2013 by Robbie Adkins

RobbieOver the last decade or two, the term “higher self” has become more and more popular. I have been working on a definition of what the higher self is for close to 40 years now, and I would like to share with you what I believe it is and a simple technique to access it.

I think of it as an electromagnetic field that is part of all your bodies. It could be called your soul body. By “all your bodies,” I mean your physical, emotional, and mental bodies, along with your soul body. These bodies each work independently of each other and yet, as part of your whole being, have an affect on each other. Various cultural influences may have taught us that one of these bodies is more important than the other, but in fact, they are all important. For instance, if your mother was a professor, she might have taught you that the mind, or the mental body, was most important…more important than your emotions or your physical activities. If you came from a family of athletes, it is possible you might have been taught to “stuff” your emotions and develop your physical body. And if your family was particularly passionate, your mental and physical abilities might have been ignored. There are a variety of religions that teach that the spiritual body or soul body is the only one that matters, and that the others, the more material ones, are to be “overcome” by spiritual practices. None of these approaches is to be judged as right or wrong…they just are what they are.

Think of the three bodies as a car and your higher self or soul body as a GPS guidance system that adjusts to conditions around you as your drive (your day) unfolds. It is sending and receiving sort of radio signals at all times, whether you are aware of it or not. The quality of those signals depends on how well integrated it is with your other bodies. When in alignment and when acknowledged, the higher self can connect you to all sorts of higher forms of knowledge that are outside your particular experience but that are always available to you. Those thoughts might be experienced as “intuition.” I believe it can be your direct connection to divine energies that are available to you. When you are saved from some kind of disaster by being in the right place at the right time, you might call that divine intervention, but I would call it being connected to your higher self and listening to it…even without your conscious awareness. Divine energies cannot interfere with your free will, so only by listing to your “divine radio station” can there be divine intervention.

Getting back to the other bodies, let me try to explain them and how to tune into each one, making this grand alignment possible for you. First let us start with the easiest one to identify, the physical body. That means the bones and muscles and blood running through our veins. If we are in physical pain, we know it can really affect our temperament. Conversely, if we have just had a great work-out and our body is fully “awake,” that state of physical being can put us in a great mood, open and ready to face any challenges and to appreciate any good things that might come our way. The process to isolate and experience the physical body is a simple one. Just sit or stand in a quiet place where you won’t be disturbed and ask your physical body how it feels at the moment. Does it want to move? Is it tense? Is it relaxed and flexible? Try to identify just your physical self, separate from any emotions you might attach to how you feel physically. It is how you feel physically, not emotionally. Ask how the physical body feels and what it needs… then just listen for a moment.

Next let us tackle trying to feel our emotional body as separate from our physical body. Sit or stand quietly a minute to identify the state of your emotional body. It may be frightened or happy, unhappy or joyful…or it may feel likely a combination of many feelings. I feel it is wise to “tune in” and ask several times during the day because the emotional body can shift very quickly, more quickly than the other bodies. You may learn some interesting things about yourself and your life. For instance, if you have a weekly office meeting, what is your emotional state right before you go into the meeting? Are you excited and eager to share ideas or progress on a project, or are you uncomfortable as if you are about to go into battle?

The third body is the mental, and that is a bit hard for most of us to separate from the emotional. By mental, I mean how your brain and your whole nervous system is working at the moment. Many years ago I learned about the biorhythm system, as it was the “system de jour.” You can research it on Wikipedia and decide for yourself if it is valid, but by using that system and noting when my “mental cycle” was above or below par, I learned to observe that there was quite a bit of variance in my ability to think. Some days I was “sharper” than others and some days I was just plain dull. Some days I had many brilliant ideas in a row and could problem solve at breakneck speed, while other days I made mistakes with the most simple mathematical calculations. The process to identify the condition of your mental body is the same as the others. Sit or stand quietly where you won’t be disturbed, ask to experience the state of your mental body at this point in time and then ask what it needs.

The final step in this process, after you have asked each body how it is functioning and what it needs today, is to ask to bring the bodies into focus with each other and then invite in the higher self, the soul body, to integrate with them all. I usually feel a deep sense of relaxation with this final step, and I just enjoy it for a moment.

This technique allows you to use all your senses to move through the day with the most accurate picture of what is going on around you. Think of it as like when you go to the eye doctor and he flips various lenses in front of your eye to get the sharpest image. This works the same way. If all your “bodies” have been acknowledged as part of the whole team, each part being as important as the others, and you have asked them to cooperate with each other, and you have asked for your higher self to flow into the other bodies, you’ve got it! It may take some time in the beginning, but eventually, you can just remember this process and it can happen in just a few seconds, in any environment. It is a simple task that promises great rewards!

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