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At the Mercy of the Box

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Girl Opening a Magical Present“Are you serious?” my friend asked the man at the counter.  She had just returned to the post office after he suggested that she come back in an hour because their computer system was down.  And, an hour later, it was still down.

“Yes, Ma’am, it’s still down.  I’m sorry about that.”

My friend looked at him and smiled.  “It’s not your fault,” she replied as she was leaving.  “Enjoy your afternoon.”

She took the 30 lb. box from the counter and returned to her car, and sighed.  This was the second post office she visited that day, as well as a box and ship store.  Of three establishments, none were able to ship the box for her.

The task to which she allotted about an hour of her time ended up taking two days.  When she told me about it, she shrugged her shoulders and laughed.  “When the third store didn’t work out, I knew I was at the mercy of the box.”

My friend didn’t recognize that her intentions had finally come to fruition.  Her life experience had been an immersion course in impatience, which impacted her family, killed friendships and compromised her health.  Once she decided to change her life by asking for patience and calm, she had experience after experience that challenged her: a work promotion and raise that took longer than scheduled, flight delays, getting stuck behind slow drivers, and finally, the 30 lb. box.

She laughed when she finally put together the puzzle pieces: her intentions created the experiences that helped her fulfill her wish.  Because she wanted patience, she created situations that would normally breed impatience, inviting her, over and over again, to make a different choice.  She told me that she now feels a sense of accomplishment and freedom that feel like a miracle!

Have you asked for attributes such as patience or strength and wonder why things suddenly feel like they got tough?  Here’s what you can do to put together the puzzle pieces:

  • IDENTIFY the attribute you are working on in one of these ways:

*Think about what you may have casually asked for in your heart of hearts.  You may have a secret wish in the realm of self-improvement that you may have put it into action without being aware of it; or

*See if there is a pattern of events happening recently that require you to show up more fully in ways that call on you to be patient or strong and trace it back to one of your self-improvement goals.

  • NOTICE when you have an experience that irritates you.
  • CHECK to see if it is calling you to practice the attribute you want to incorporate (such as being patient or strong)
  • ACKNOWLEDGE yourself when you choose to practice patience or strength, understanding that the experiences are a perfect reflection of your self-improvement intentions.

It only takes a little bit of imagination to allow your life to become on purpose, even in ways that initially feel non-preferred.  Once you practice the art of saying, “This experience serves me exactly as-is, even if I can’t yet identify how,” you will connect with your wondrous freedom of choice, reconnect with your creativity, and enjoy your future adventures with some extra pep in your step!

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Remaining Calm During Madness

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How does one keep your vibration positive when it appears that there is madness all around you? You don’t want to look naïve to your coworkers, or like a Pollyanna to your family, or unsympathetic to a friend with a problem. And what is the value to YOU for staying positive?

Let me answer that last question first.

Fotolia_65720515_Subscription_Monthly_MThe value to you is to improve your own well-being. The better you feel, the less likely you are to get sick, or get in a car accident, or attract an argument with someone. The cells of your body actually respond to what you believe your life is like. If you think “My life is a disaster,” your cells will respond by not working properly, “knowing” that things are hopeless…that they are part of a losing team. I realize that sounds like a stretch, but more and more scientific types are finding this to be true. Researchers are creating tests to prove it so.

If instead you say “Life is good, I am healthy and all is well,” your cells will eat it right up! Energy food for the little guys and they LOVE it and will say “Oh good, I’m on a winning team so I will do my very best to work really well!”

Another important reason is to understand that how you are feeling will affect what happens around you. The “Law of Attraction” is becoming more and more accepted and it is hard to find anyone that has never heard of it. If you haven’t, it works like this…what ever you are thinking/believing, you are vibrating…and like vibrations will be attracted to you and you to them. Simple as that. It may be that you feel like a victim…so you will attract someone to victimize you. If you are depressed, you are likely to sit next to the most depressed person in any room you enter. So that is another reason to use whatever techniques you know about to improve your mood…to be more positive.

I am by no means saying you should “ignore” what is bothering you. You can’t stuff it away somewhere inside of you and pretend it isn’t there…because it will only fester and grow. What you CAN do is change your attitude about it. When there is this “thing” sitting there in the way of your happiness, instead of being depressed or sad about it, get to work figuring out how to get rid of it. If you can take that approach, you may have a new, fresh idea that you couldn’t see in your state of depression. Understand that the problem is OUTSIDE of you…it is not you.

The hard part, of course, is to know HOW to change your attitude, to change how you are feeling, or to minimize the importance of a perceived problem. Here are some things you can try.

  • Stop repeating your same sad story over and over. If something bad happened to you, it is NOT YOU. If you keep repeating it and repeating it, it BECOMES part of you. A good friend of mine and I came up with this technique: First acknowledge it, then release it, then focus on what you want. Adironnda says you can tell a story only three times, and that is it!       So choose your three times carefully and know that you are telling it to “let it go.”
  • Step back and look for the silver lining. If you look back at situations in your past, how often can you find a situation that looked like a road block while it was happening, but later ended up opening up a new and better opportunity for you. I ask you to just take a minute right now and think back about a particular situation that turned out that way for you. We have ALL had them and looking back at such stories helps us look for the good in any new situations we encounter.
  • Make time to have some fun. It can be as simple as stopping in to get an ice cream cone on the way home. Treat yourself to something special that you know makes you feel good. We have many touchstones from our childhood, so identify them and DO them.       If I really want to be comforted, I watch an old episode of “I Love Lucy.” It instantly erases the stress of “modern life” as we know it today. We know we can’t really go back there, and realistically don’t want to, but for 30 minutes, all the stress leaves my body/mind!
  • Learn to Meditate. Find time in your day, usually best at the very beginning of the day, to just sit in silence. There are so many programs out there today teaching people how to do it, and many of them are even free. If you decide that it is something you want to try, the right teacher or program WILL appear for you.       Someone will tell you about a program in conversation, or you will stumble across something on Facebook. It isn’t hard to learn and there have never been so many willing teachers.       It no longer needs to involve a specific religion or philosophy. Those days are long gone. It isn’t even mysterious! It is just a simple thing to learn to do to make your life better.

Print this list out and keep it somewhere. Then look at it again in a month and see if you actually tried any of these things, and if they helped. You have control of your own destiny…no one else. So what do you choose? I have worked on this my whole entire life and just now feel like I am actually starting to “live” it…so don’t be hard on yourself…there is no deadline.

Just keep trying. It is the ONLY way to get there!

The Map by Boni Lonnsburry

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Boni Lonnsburry

Master Creationist, shows you how with “The Map To Our Responsive Universe – Where Dreams Really Do Come True.”

When I first talked with Boni in 2011, she was asking me if I had set my intentions for Simple Steps Real Change. I’m sure I fumbled through that answer which was ”not really.”Over these last two years I’ve come to know Boni better, studied her teachings, read her book and interviewed her for 5 radio shows. What I know about Boni is that she is a living example of how we create our own reality. By accepting who we are, intending what we want our lives to be and flowing the energy in that positive direction, we can live a life we love.

Boni continues to inspire me, and I know she will too in this candid interview.

Q: Someone looking at your life right now would see a fairytale filled with success, happiness and romance but that’s a far distance from where you started. What was your life like when you reached your lowest low?

Boni:

My life has become a “dream come true” in every regard. I can honestly say I adore my life 99.99% of the time. But it wasn’t always this way. I very consciously created this life. When I was at my lowest point, I had just made it through a difficult year emotionally. My father died. I had just divorced my husband of 16 years. My two sons moved in with their father, and he immediately moved them out-of-state. My home was in the midst of foreclosure proceedings. I was investigating bankruptcy. I had no income, no job, and I feared I’d soon have no home. Everything seemed to have fallen apart, and I had no clue how to put it all back together again. I felt like a failure, and I had little hope for a light-filled future. That was my lowest of lows.

Q: You’ve said you knew for years that you create your own reality yet your reality, wasn’t ideal. What were you doing that kept you down?

Boni:

I knew the concept that “we create our own reality”, but I wasn’t doing what it took to create what I wanted. I talked the talk, but I didn’t walk the walk. My negative self (aka ego) was running the show. I was feeling “better than” others for “knowing the theory,” but I wasn’t getting real about taking responsibility for my reality. And my reality wasn’t changing.  When I stopped caring what other people thought, and just cared about how I felt, my world began to shift.

Q: With all you were going through, when did you realize you had to take a new approach to your life?

Boni:

One day I realized I had spent my entire day, morning, noon and night…afraid. I was afraid of the future. I was afraid they would repossess my car, my house, my clothing! I was afraid I would end up homeless—on the street, with a shopping cart filled with all my earthly possessions. And the worst of it all wasn’t even that I could be destitute…it was the fear. I hated being constantly afraid. It just felt so horrible to never be happy.

I decided, “Screw the fear!” I couldn’t possibly feel any worse than I had been up until that point. And the constant fear and worry wasn’t helping my life one iota. I made the choice then and there to be happy first—and to forget the fear because a) it wasn’t serving me and b) it felt horrible!

That choice “reset” my emotions and allowed me to create from a neutral position again. Choosing “happy first” allowed me to create my days unencumbered by the fear, which allowed my choices to begin to manifest. From that point on, I spent just five or ten minutes each day deciding how I wanted my day to feel…by instructing my unseen friends and feelings that way so they knew what I meant.

Within weeks my life began to change…first I was offered a great job, which I turned down (without falling into fear). I was then made the offer again, on my terms, and I took it! I kept “ordering up my day” for a few minutes every morning, and within a few months I was offered raise! That raise was turned down by corporate…because, get this…I was too valuable to receive such a small raise, they wanted me to receive more!

I’m tellin’ you, this stuff works!!

Within a few more months, the president of the company I worked for offered me a job as a VP of a startup. And then the startup was handed over to me! I was the president of my own company… less than three years from my lowest low. That company cost me $50 to incorporate. And within six years I grew it into to a $5 million company.

Q: You wrote “The Map To Our Responsive Universe – Where Dreams Really Do Come True” as a step-by-step guide on how to create our dreams whether we know what we want or not. Isn’t it important that we know what we want if we’re going to create it?

Boni:

Actually, it’s better if you don’t know precisely what you want when you want to create something. Because if you get caught up in the “form” something takes, in what something “should” look like, you shut down thousands of ways that something could come to you faster, easier, and more elegantly than had you not had any idea of what it might look like in the first place.

What you do need to know, in order to create wonderful realities, is how you want to feel in that area of your life. So if you want more money, instead of trying on clarifying your intentions, focusing energy and clearing your beliefs. When you create one or two major things manifesting from your Immediate Intentions, you may then decide to tackle something else that would make your life even more amazing. And when everything you dreamed of has manifested, it’s time to dream some new dreams, and set some new intentions!

Q: Someone who thinks they are a victim of circumstances may have a hard time believing that the reality of their life is something they created. How does The Map help them?

Boni:

“The Map” won’t prove that we create our own realities. There are lots of books on quantum physics that prove the premise. “The Map” is for people who feel that the concept of “you create your own reality” rings true in their heart and mind, and they want to know how to do it.

It will help those people, who like me, once believed they were victims and created realities that made it look like they were victims. With “The Map” they will learn how to choose new beliefs, flow energy towards their dreams and thus create new realities. One doesn’t have to believe it 100% to begin — one only needs to have a sincere desire to change and a willingness to do the work. And when their reality begins to change and shift because of what they have learned to do in “The Map,” it becomes really exciting! They begin to strengthen their knowing that they are indeed creating it all, and, thus, their power.

Q: You say that our lives are a manifestation of our beliefs. How can we change a belief that has been ingrained in us since childhood?

Boni:

Beliefs are not that hard to change. What is hard is getting someone to change his or her beliefs.

Most people don’t realize that beliefs literally keep you in the reality you are in. They don’t think beliefs are that important. The truth is, they are critically important.

People also don’t realize that changing beliefs is easy—and most don’t know how to discover what their beliefs are, let alone how to change them. I wrote “The Map” to be an easy, step-by-step guide for people to follow the entire process of conscious creation, including finding and changing beliefs.

Q: Since you’ve figured out how to create your beautiful life, what do you do when you have a bad day or experience?

Boni:

When you stop putting out constricting energy (i.e. fear, scarcity, lack, anger, etc.) you stop creating bad experiences. That’s the way the universe works.

So, for the most part, I just don’t create much that I don’t like. I know it seems impossible, but it’s not. Even going to the dentist for a cleaning has become a beautiful experience (I actually wrote a blog post about this.)

However, I am human. And as long as we are human there will be some days that are better than others. Why? Well, we might get caught up temporarily in other people’s energy and create some things we don’t want. Or we may be stretching into a new dream, and find some challenges there. When something unpleasant happens in my world, it really depends on whether it is a little or a big thing, as to how I handle it.

For the little things:

• I remember how powerful I really am, and I remind myself I am creating it all.

• I focus on what I do want and I feel gratitude for what I have. I mostly ignore the little annoying things. I give my power to what I want, not what I don’t want.

For the bigger things:

• I allow myself the time and space to feel my feelings around it. You can’t get clear on anything regarding why you created the reality, until you are in a neutral emotional place. So I feel the anger, hurt, betrayal, disappointment, fear, whatever it might be.

• Then I ask myself, “How did I create this?” And the answer is always found in “The Map”. Either I didn’t own my power (divinity), I wasn’t clear on the dream (intentions), I was flowing energy towards what I didn’t want (beliefs, fear, etc.), I wasn’t flowing energy towards what I did want, or I hadn’t taken action on the dream.

• I correct what I discover, and move on to creating what I do want, rather than what I don’t.

Q: What do you say to someone who is so steeped in negativity that they don’t believe that anything they do or don’t do will make a difference?

Boni:

I don’t say anything to people like that. It’s not my job to change anyone’s mind about the nature of reality. They have unlimited time (lifetime after lifetime if they choose) to figure it out. And they will.

What I do when someone is in that space is imagine him or her surrounded by beautiful healing light. I imagine they find fulfillment and happiness. I acknowledge they have appeared in my life for a reason and I bless them and their path.

Although, again, my life has very few people in it with that type of outlook. The happier and more secure I am in my own power and knowing, the more and more I attract people of like mind, or at the very least, of an open mind.

Q: How is “The Map’ different from any other Law of Attraction book?

Boni:

I think “The Map” is different from other law of attraction books in

three important ways:

• I have personally done this work in my own life. I came from a working class family with a background of pain and shame, like many people. But when I discovered that we create it all, I took my life apart, piece by piece, and created everything the way I wanted it. I have proven this works.

• “The Map” breaks down the process, into small, simple steps. Do-able steps. With plenty of explanations and examples, so that people can truly be “guided” to create their dreams, instead of simply knowing it is possible.

• Something else is different about this book…some say it is “imbued.” Others say I have created a “morphogenetic field.” I am not really sure why it is so different. I know I did ask for the assistance of my “unseen friends” every time I sat down to write. But something, according to its readers, does seem to be different.

And because of all of these reasons, people are creating some phenomenal realities.

Q: What do you want to be remembered for?

Boni:

Wow. Good question. I guess I would like to be remembered for reminding people of who they really are.

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