When I was online recently I viewed a credit card statement and a bold message popped up. It was an alert that my personal information may have been compromised due to hackers, and the credit card company was mailing a replacement card to me. I discussed it with a few of my friends, who mentioned that they too had received the message.
We had a spirited conversation about the lack of privacy these days and how this age of information impacts our personal boundaries. Our lives are now open to observation and scrutiny in ways that are unprecedented. Through the evolution of technology, our personal information, our purchasing habits and preferences are “caught on tape.” I wonder if there would ever be true deterrents to hackers or the restoration of privacy as we once knew. For the time being, though, it sure feels like we will continue in the direction of a boundary-less existence.
As I think about it, it feels like our physical world and how we act in it is now an open book. Does that make us powerless? Out of control? What can we consider sacred about our existence? Well, I submit that what remains truly private and hacker-free about us is our inner world – our daydreams, private thoughts and personal wishes; our individuality and heartbeat; our inner landscape and playground. It is the portion of us that is still hidden and private unless and until we ourselves wish to share it. With it we are ever-powerful because we control it.
For me, reclaiming a wonderful sense of power and control availed itself once I became intimate with my private thoughts, ideas and the ability to maneuver physical existence from the inside out. This intimacy – befriending and honoring ALL aspects of ourselves within our inner world – can actually be considered the next frontier.
Getting familiar with that next frontier may have road blocks, because we are much more familiar with the wonderful and glorious distractions of the physical world. I do remember the days when I would avoid paying attention to my inner world at all cost because it was way too unfamiliar, and I would be afraid. Any time I slowed down and meaningful stuff would pop up that could have used my attention, I’d cover my ears, like, “La, la, la, I can’t hear you!” I remember being so paranoid about my thoughts, like one insidious piece of thinking was going to derail all of the hope and optimism contained in the good thoughts that I had meticulously engineered. Again, I’d be covering my ears, like, “La, la, la, bad thoughts, I can’t hear you!”
When I surrendered to my own authenticity and simply told the truth to myself about how I felt, my self-judgment lifted and my thoughts returned to optimism easily and effortlessly. I came to realize that my thoughts are things that I have, they aren’t who I am. I also began to envision that my thoughts are like clouds in the sky that are always moving and shifting. It is now automatic to embrace everything that I think and feel without a compelling need to censor, judge or disown.
I discovered that I began to truly honor myself after I learned how to dialogue with, acknowledge and appreciate the aspects of myself I had previously feared and judged. Now that the fear and judgment are gone, I have a pretty good time just hanging out with my thoughts. I keep myself very entertained, actually; it’s even more fun than browsing the internet.
In the spirit of true self-regard, are there portions of yourself that you DON’T want to honor? Shine your light on them. Let your mantras be, “I hear you,” and “I got it.” Remember that aspects of you long for the same acknowledgment and understanding that you seek from others, so consider giving yourself that acknowledgment and understanding first. When you do, you will unveil your innate passion, your hidden power, immense love and unbridled joy. So here’s to honoring yourself in ALL ways, and enjoying a true hacker-free existence!