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5 Tips To Come To Grips When You Get Triggered & Angry

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Fotolia_33631304_Subscription_XLHave you ever known a person who seems to be angry or full of venom all of the time? This sort of ever-present dark energy can be really draining. I refer to these infuriated folks as energy vampires.

Sad to say, there are countless people in the world who are angry for all of the unpleasant incidents they’ve encountered throughout their lives. These energy vampires seem to carry all of their negative experiences with them wherever they go.

While we all have experienced heart breaking moments, we can learn to accept the situation and move on with our lives instead sucking the joy out of the present moment.

Anger can be a deeply destructive emotion if we let it get out of control and remain attached to our Ego’s expectations. Holding on to the venom of destructive feelings can trigger depression, bring on disease and contribute to a general sense of dissatisfaction. Getting angry is natural, how you handle anger is another animal all together.

Each of us has the capacity to learn how to let go of guilt, anger, and shame.

5 Tips to Come to Grips

1. Allow yourself to be pissed off for 15 minutes then take action.

Anger is natural and acceptable emotion for a short period of time. Allowing time to feel and express your anger is healthy. The key is to feel it, and then take a deep breath and address the situation. How can you deal with what happened. What steps can you take to make things right?

2. Reframe the situation as “a moment in time” and then let it go.

Have you ever looked back on an anger-filled emotional situation and laughed? I suspect you are nodding that you have. The point here is you will recover and life will get back on track.

Last week I was angry with a customer service person who forgot that “service” was a part of her title. After lots of uncomfortable hoop jumping, everything was resolved. At that point I had 2 choices. Let it go, or dump on everyone I know about my crappy experience.

3. Learn to Forgive: Forgiveness is healthy and all about YOU letting go of useless baggage.

Practice forgiveness whenever you can. You will feel better and lighter for having the courage to allow for human weakness. Let it go. Kids are great teachers of forgiveness. Notice how easily they forgive each other and move on.

4. Take stock in your relationships; words are irreversible and unrepeatable.

This quote explains this situation perfectly … Think before you speak.

Know that a word suddenly shot from the tongue is like an arrow shot from the bow. That arrow won’t turn back on its way; you must damn the torrent at its source.– Rumi

5. Walk away from Energy Vampires

Unless you have some sort of super protective energy force field, do yourself a favor and walk away from people who rant and rave and suck up all of your positive energy. If you can’t get away, add some humor to the encounter. Energy Vampires will be thrown off by your silliness and will move on to their next willing audience member.

Follow these simple tips and you will open yourself to a well-balanced, healthy way of living.

It Takes Action To Create Your Health & Dream Body

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Fotolia_55286906_Subscription_XXLAction will certainly be required to achieve any goal you have created for yourself in your health and fitness.

Taking action is something we want to get excited about. It is through taking action that we can achieve the health and dream body we have always desired.

Taking action is something many people get stuck on. They can dream big and get excited about creating their dream, but they fall short when it comes to taking the actions that are needed to create the big dream.

Action is the physical expression of creating your big dream. However you have to be inspired to take the actions that are coming to you.

Your big dream once planted in your subconscious may intuitively telling you to make a phone call, research something on the internet, or make an appointment with someone who can help you achieve your big dream.

What is important to understand is that your big dream is giving you the inspiration, motivation, and ideas you should be taking in the form of actions.

In the beginning consistently taking action may seem challenging.

Even though you may feel uncomfortable following these inspired thoughts and ideas actions ares needed for you to achieve your health and dream body.

Your new health and dream body are going to ask you to get up and do your exercises, eat better, and don’t skip meal. In fact it will remind you to bring your healthy food with you to work. Your dream will hint to you to get out and walk during lunch, take the stairs, and hit the gym after work. Your dream body and health will encourage you to make a health dinner and get to bed earlier so your body can sleep for eight hours and heal itself.

Your dream body and health will trigger you to join a gym or get a trainer, maybe start running or join a team sport.

These and countless more actions will come into your mind each and every moment of everyday when you focus on living and feeling your dream. This is supposed to happen. It is the way we are designed to create.

The more consistently you take action the more habitual it will become. This is a fantastic habit to create.

People who take effective actions each day are highly productive in creating their health and fitness dreams.

You are meant to be healthy and fit. You are meant to dream of what you want in life and then take action to create it.

Taking action is part of the lifestyle you will create along with your big dream of health and fitness.

Your positive actions toward creating your health and fitness dream comes after getting emotionally involved in visualizing and feeling your dream as already real.

How exciting will it be to live a life where you know that all you have to do is create the big dream, get emotionally involved in feeling it, and then take the consistent actions to make it happen.

Action carries with it power. You have within you unlimited access to the power to create. The more consistently you take action toward your dream the more power you will access.

I would love to help you on your journey of health and wellness.

I wish for all of you Vibrant Health!

David Fresilli – Holistic Health Practitioner

I’m Gay And Where I Live People Hate Me

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Dear Regina,

I am gay and live in a place where gay people are hated. I am surrounded by people who say they are “religious” but there is no way I can be myself in an environment of such prejudice and hate. Why do people hate, especially those who say they are spiritual? Alex, W. 

Dear Alex,

Following a religion and being spiritual are two different things. Spirituality is the path of personal reflection and investigation to find truth that aligns with love – acceptance, compassion, and non-judgment. People who hate while calling themselves “religious” are spiritually lazy, allowing themselves to be controlled by and hand fed the doctrines of others. Without investigating for ourselves we do not appreciate that everything changes. The natural progression of change includes our understanding that ancient religious texts were written in a time when women had no power, there was no science, no technology, and no questioning authority whatsoever.

Sexuality is now known to be biological in nature. But some people still perpetuate judgment based on antiquated thousand-year old beliefs. Those people have not done the personal investigation necessary to “learn” that science offers new information that was not available when ancient religious texts were written.

Stay true to who you are. You cannot change anyone. People who perpetuate judgment based on ancient beliefs will only change when they question their beliefs with the goal of seeking truth. If you continue to live where you do, then know that by being the best person possible you are an example of what it actually means to live true spiritual values.

An Opportunity To Walk My Talk!

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finished!A week ago today I was given a great opportunity to see if I could really live what I ask other people to do…that is to remain positive no matter WHAT life looks like around you. The day it started, I missed an important phone call and was as upset about that…so immediately made myself a cheeseburger! That showed me my emotional dependence on food for comfort. It was so obvious it was like watching a movie. I was upset about missing the phone call, but the real test was yet to come.

10 years ago I made a large outdoor mosaic table using the china that was my parents. They purchased the distinctive Blue Willow pattern right after WWII and we all grew up eating every meal off of those dishes. Mom also helped raise my brother’s children, so THAT whole generation ate many meals off these dishes too. When mom was finally moved to a facility for dementia, the remaining set was sort of a hodgepodge and no one wanted them. I decided the best way to “honor” all the meals mother prepared for us was to make this table.

It gave me an opportunity to remember the many meals we had as a family…always together…to be honest not always pleasant, but always together. There was one platter that we must have used to served corn on the cob hundreds of times. We would go down to the river where two sisters grew corn and pick it fresh, bring it home and it was on that platter within a couple of hours of being picked. I loved that platter and it is embedded in the table.

After years of being outside, through winters and summers, rain, freezing temperatures and triple digit heat, a few tiles had come loose. I needed to repair them for an upcoming event I am hosting, now just two weeks away. As I got into it, I discovered the whole piece of half inch plywood it was built on was disintegrating because I hadn’t sealed it when I first made the table! I immediately turned it over to pour resin on the bottom of the wood to stabilize it, but the next day when we lifted the table back upright, all of the tile remained on the ground…in various chunks and pieces! The wood on the top of the table was like powder so the tile was glued to nothing! EEEEEEEK!rebuildingdetail

Horror! Or not! Horror! Or not! I just decided right then and there that I wasn’t going to accept that it was ruined. I would repair it. I thought about posting the apparent disaster photos I took of it on Facebook, but realized that I would be giving energy to the problem, not to the solution…so I took photos but kept them in my phone, kept them to myself. And then I started to work. It was only a table after all, but filled with many memories and hours of work on my part. A friend’s adult daughter was in the hospital at the same time. She had been bitten by a brown recluse spider and developed blood poisoning and was fighting for her life. So this wasn’t as important as that, but it truly was important to me because of the sentimental value…and all the hours of work…and memories.

tilesongroundMany people have been watching things they thought were solid dissolve or disappear. People they thought would be with them for a long time are leaving the planet. Homes and jobs have been lost to the recession. Many limbs have been lost in war. People have been loosing things right and left. So I saw this as my “loss” learning experience and was so grateful that it was only a table, not a person or an arm or our home. I had the experience of watching something I thought was solid dissolve right before my eyes, like a rock turning to sand and escaping through my fingers AND I found the blessing in it, during it, all the way through it.

So with that true gratitude in my heart, I worked every day for a week, and now the table is back together. A little bumpy in places, but I decided that the tiles wanted to get out and play a little, change places, and then settle back down again! I never gave into being upset about it (except for missing that first phone call). Once I almost started to cry, but then again thought about how very lucky I am, and if I gave in, I might never get it back together again.

Not a Humpty Dumpty table this one.

I was also thankful that my business is slow at the moment (THAT was a big thing to not be upset about) because I didn’t have much else to do but work on the table! How perfect is that! And when more work does come, my energy, my “vibe” will be in a really good place, not in a place of loss.

This also reminds me of a story I was told many years ago, demonstrating how our thoughts have more power than matter. The story is about a person who has need of a desk, so goes and buys the desk and puts it in his workspace. There is a fire and the desk is burned to ashes. But the person still has in his mind the need for a desk…so goes and gets another one! The thought of a desk is stronger than the desk itself!

So next time you are in the middle of a “loss” experience, try to remember these stories, try to keep your attitude positive and your vibe high. You will be of more use to yourself and those around you…you can be the legs to the table…or desk…or what ever or whoever needs support.

Being given the opportunity to be a set of legs is a gift, an honorable one at that.finisheddetail

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