I simply adore the concept of the New Year. Just the idea of it brings hope, happiness and the promise of a new day. I used to be the queen of New Year’s resolutions. I was adept at creating lofty goals for myself. I was going to lose 50 pounds (overnight); I was going to be more fun to be around; I was going to stop being so introspective and just enjoy life. I would resolve to be thin, smarter and have more money. I would imagine creating ways of living that were so far away from where I was.
I now realize that if I was successful in achieving my New Year’s resolutions it meant that I would be someone else. I wouldn’t be myself. None of my resolutions incorporated the idea of honoring or accepting who I was.
I suppose it is common for many of us to want to be someone other than ourselves, and there’s certainly no better time to start than at the dawn of a new year. Yet, once I healed for real, something unexpected happened – I didn’t want to be anyone other than myself. It was delightful! And when it happened, I discovered that my resolutions gently and effortlessly evolved to be simpler and more attainable. I gained the ability to create a tangible plan of action to achieve my goal rather than simply thinking with self-sabotaging broad strokes in the hopes of achieving an unattainable goal.
Take a good look at your goal for this year. Does your goal allow you to embrace who you are right now? Does your proposed improvement feel like a warm and nurturing blanket around you? Is your goal manageable? Will your improvements or refinements be in alignment with accepting yourself? Are you willing to be gentle with yourself as you incorporate a new habit or two?
The beauty of looking at your goal from these points of view allows you to get a real good glimpse of the state of your personal union. And when you assess, simply observe it without judgment. Your observation might be something like, “Ah, I’m feeling really jazzed about it and can already imagine my cool and adventurous journey to get there.” Or, it could be similar to this, “I am kind of agitated about it because I want it RIGHT NOW!”
Either way you understand where you are in your relationship with yourself. If you find that there’s something you believe is truly lacking, imagine yourself already having it … a lot of it. Allow yourself to feel energized. Pretend that all you think having that thing in your life will bring you is already present. Your ability to imagine it, to understand it, to know it and to feel it is in your power, here and now. By shifting your resonance, here and now, you allow yourself to achieve that feeling, now.
When you are feeling jazzed and excited about your goal, easy does it. Be patient. You can manifest your goal by doing something in support of it just today, then to your “just today” on the next day, and on the following day. Staying present and doing your best “just today” gives you the ability to take nice, easy and gliding steps in achieving what you want. It honors and supports you. The adage to under-promise and over-deliver can be such a wonderful gift to give to yourself.
Beginning anew is inherent within us and is reflected so beautifully in our world. With our renewing cycle of night following day following night, we are gifted with the opportunity to begin anew at any time. When you decide, truly decide, to begin anew and take one lovely bite-sized step just today, you can find yourself effortlessly and lovingly manifesting what you desire. Any day can be the beginning of your new year, with all of the hope, happiness and promise that it brings.
Fuzzy Manning says
A fun basic approach to New Years resolutions that make sense, thanks Janet! ♥