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The Building Blocks of Health & Fitness

June 17, 2013 by Dave Fresilli

DaveOur bodies are amazing. Do you realize within each of us lays the body’s innate ability to heal itself?

All we have to do is simply nurture our bodies with a few easy steps, and our bodies will do the rest.

I first learned of these 6 Foundational principles for Health at “The CHEK Institute” during holistic lifestyle courses, and thoroughly encourage anyone interested in a deeper understanding to do the same.

“First Things First” as my Dad always said, so let us start at the top.

Paradigms – Did you know that your mind is actually designed to create your results in life?

Most of us walk around thinking we are a slave to circumstance, but in reality once you learn the process, creating what you want in life becomes almost second nature.

We will focus our attentions to health and wellness, but understand this works with every part of your life.

Step 1. Decide what it is you want your health and fitness to feel and look like.

Step 2. Visualize with deep emotional attachment already having this health and fitness

Step 3. Daily Affirmations with joyful emotions of what it feels like to already have this health and wellness.

Step 4. Live as if you already have this health and fitness.

This will set up a vibration in your body that will radiate out to the universe. You are literally telling the universal consciousness or God what it is you want in life. “Ask and you shall receive.” Things, circumstances, people, ideas, will then begin to flow to you.

“God helps those who help themselves.” It is your job to look, listen, feel, and be open to these opportunities. When they present themselves, don’t hesitate, act upon them. Take that step that is being offered to you, or you know you should do! It will lead you to the next step and the next, until you reach your goal. You are being given the help you have asked for, you must take the opportunity being given.

Breath – the Diaphragmatic Breath is so important to the health of the body and mind. Find time each day to sit in a quiet place, and breathe through the nose. Allow the stomach to fill, and the chest to expand and rise. Hold a slight pause at the top, and then exhale through the nose, with a additional pause at the bottom. Throughout this exercise it is important to quiet your thoughts. Follow your breath in and out, and feel the breath move through your body.

This will begin to retrain your brain how to breathe diaphragmatically. The more you practice, the easier breathing becomes. This relaxed breathing allows the body to move into a parasympathetic state, and in doing so inhibits stress and the damage stress has on the body. As you become more comfortable with diaphramatic breathing you can begin to integrate the process into your everyday life.

Water, water, water. You know where I’m going with this already, don’t you? My gosh look at yourself, where would you be without water. Water is critical to every body function down to the cellular level.

The noticable effects of dehydration begin as soon as 2% body weight is lost. I weight 168 lbs so 2% is 3.36 lbs of water. That’s just over a quart, and believe it or not that is not a lot.

The quick and easy fix is to begin your day with at least 16 ounce of water and possibly up to a quart. Then spread it out throughout the day. Eight ounces every hour or so, (that’s easy.) Bring a quart water bottle with you or even two.

Here’s another tip. Drink 8 -16 ounces of water 30 minutes before each meal. This helps in digestion and will satiate your appetite so you won’t over eat.

One of the many benefits of water is detoxification. Your skin will look much healthier when you are not overburdened with toxins and dehydrated. Guys might not care about looking like the Marlboro Man but I bet every woman does!

By the way coffee (a diuretic), alcohol, sugar, (including all those sodas, diet or not), will have a similar aging effect, on the skin and body. I’m just sayin.

Food is medicine. It can promote healing or lead to illness and disease. What you eat is critical to your health. Eat the bad kind of foods, or too much of even the good kind, and you are setting yourself up for health challenges. It’s all about giving the body what it NEEDS, not what you want.

I tell all my clients, when it comes to food “Go back to the Old Time Farm.”

All the food you consume should be free from synthetic hormones, antibiotics, synthetic industrialized fertilizers, herbicides, rodenticides, and fungicides. They should not be GMO (Genetically Modified). Animals and fowl should be free range grass-fed, or wild game. Fish should be wild caught, not farm raised. Stay clear of all preservatives, additives, natural flavors (very deceiving) or artificial flavor. All are foreign to your gut, and your liver (the poor thing has to filter it all as best it can) and will build up over time causing issues, and intolerances. The long term effects of GMO foods are unkown at his time, but science is already seeing noticeable health issues.

Exercise. Come on, get out and move that body. “Move it or lose it” is so true. Exercise comes in all forms, from gentle modalities such as Tia Chi and Chi Gong, to high intensity workouts, and everything in between.

It is important to remember that how you begin and what you chose for exercise depends on your overall health and condition. It is recommend you consult your doctor first before starting any exercise program. Once done, I would suggest seeking out a qualified personal trainer to guide you. Postural correction, stretching and exercise selection along with all its variables must be designed for you and your needs, not what everyone else is doing. Following the crowd can often lead to disapointing results, and injury.

As dad would say, “If you’re going to do it, do it right.”

Sleep. Who doesn’t love to sleep? Why then are so many of us suffering from not getting enough quality sleep? We always suffer for it the next day.

Sleep is critical for our bodies because it is during our sleep that the body repairs and rebuilds. Remember I mentioned that our bodies have the innate ability to heal themselves? Well, much of this healing occurs during our sleep. So if you are not getting quality sleep, you are robbing the body of precious healing time.

For starters getting to bed by 10 pm and waking at 6am will help. In general terms 10pm to 2am (during non REM cycles) the body is repairing and rebuilding tissue growth, muscles and organs. Then from 2am to 6am (during REM cycles) the body shifts over to brain function. So give your body the rest it needs and it will give you the health you deserve. Paul Chek; How to Eat Move and Be Healthy; The Chek Institute, 2003.

Life is about expressing our passions and living to our full potential. Creating real health and fitness in our lives will give us the vehicle to do this.

I wish for all of you Vibrant Health!

Published March 2013

Sources

Paul Chek; The 6 Foundational Principles for Health; The Holistic Lifestyle Coach 1, 2; Paul Chek, 2003.

Bob Proctor; The goal Achiever; Life Success Productions; 2003.

Roshi Philip Kapleau; The three Pillars Of Zen; Anchor Books; 1989.

Dr. F. Batmanghelidj; Your Body’s Many Cries for Water; Global Health Solutions;1995.

Paul Chek; How to Eat Move and Be Healthy; The Chek Institute, 2003

 

Inner Joy

March 13, 2013 by Teri Williams

Reconnecting with our inner joy, your soul self, is essential to creating peace in our lives and living a moreTeri soulful experience. It’s where we find our true happiness. You don’t need a 10 day vacation in the islands to hear her voice. (Okay, I admit that would be really nice right now). You can start tuning into your soul’s voice by practicing these 6 steps. For me, they have become a natural part of my everyday life.

  • Breathe deep at least 3 times per day – Stop whatever you are doing and take 3 deep, slow purposeful breaths – filling your lungs with oxygen and your soul with life. This brings a sense of inner tranquility and can soothe away any tension.
  • Take a 15 minute walk, preferably in nature – Simply walk at a pace that feels comfortable to you. Pay attention to the ebb and flow of the natural world. There is a sweet sensation that comes over us when we observe the synchronicity of life through animals and plants.
  • Laugh, laughter feeds the soul – Watch your favorite comedy, write down and relive the funniest thing that ever happened to you or simply sit and laugh. Laughter helps you take things light heartedly and is one of the best forms of medicine. Bonus…it’s FREE!
  • Listen to music everyday – Turn on your favorite tunes and listen. Sing if it makes you feel good, out loud if you can. Focusing on music can reduce pain, decrease depression and create a sense of calm.
  • Practice gratitude – Look forward to every day and be grateful for each moment. In any given minute we can find something to be grateful for; sometimes we simply don’t see it. Start a gratitude journal, share with your friends what you are thankful for, including them, practice saying, “Thank you” more often.
  • Of course, Smile! No explanation needed!

Practicing these simple steps often can make your life a little lighter. Creating room in your life for daily “soul care” is essential to living a Simple Soulful Life. “Thank you” for being here. I offer a deep bow and smile for you!

Reflections – June 2013

March 9, 2013 by Cheryl Maloney

ReflectionsThere are people who come into our lives and stay and those who are with us for only a short period of time. Each one touches us with their energy and we are changed in some way. Some came to show us who we are and others show us who we never want to be. Our hopes are rekindled, our passion ignited and in some cases our fire extinguished. And with others, we may not realize the mark they left on us for years.

Every experience though is our opportunity to touch another’s life. While they may not always bring out the best in us… we have the choice to allow our best to shine through. Allow kindness to prevail. Because no matter how another may treat us their actions are an indication of their pain, their unhappiness and their issues. They are not a reflection of who we are. Allow your light to shine over those who need it most and both your lives will be changed.

Lead with love.

 – Cheryl Maloney

The Unstoppable Erika Gilchrist

March 9, 2013 by Cheryl Maloney

Screen shot 2013-03-26 at 4.35.55 PMHave you experienced events in your life that are so horrible that you believe you’re broken beyond repair? Do you think that you can never live a ”normal” life, let alone a life of happiness and success? Erika Gilchrist has been there and she’s on a mission to show you how you too can move beyond those events and become truly unstoppable!

Q: What happened in your life that transformed you from victim to unstoppable?

Erika: My story seems like something that was made for a movie. I was a little girl with big dreams who grew up with humble beginnings and was sexually violated repeatedly by people who were supposed to be there to protect me. As a result, I grew up very confused about the role that men were supposed to play in my life. Even worse, I wasn’t sure what role I was to play in the lives of others. I began a downward spiral of mistrust, defensiveness, and complete sadness. As I got older, I began to notice how utterly possessed I was in getting people to like me. I became a CHRONIC PEOPLE PLEASER, and often times the things I needed to do for myself fell by the wayside. That forced me to work harder for less money, and I became completely overwhelmed. This lead to a breakdown that ultimately sent me to seek professional help. And through the years of digging through all of the baggage, lies, mistrust, and shame, something miraculous happened. I was curled up in a corner on the floor feeling the worst emotional pain that I had ever experienced when I heard a voice so clearly that I thought there was someone else in the room. It sternly said, “Erika, you’re better than this. Get up!” The only word I can think of that could describe how I felt after hearing that voice is “UNSTOPPABLE.” And in that moment, The Unstoppable Woman was born.

Q: Victims of sexual abuse often bury their story because they feel in some way responsible or unworthy. What is your advice for anyone who still hiding their truth?

Erika: First, know that it wasn’t (and still isn’t) your fault! To have something so precious taken from you without your permission is enough to drive a person into a walking state of silent insanity. It’s a world where nothing makes sense. Second, know that you are not alone. There are hundreds of thousands of people who have experienced the same tragedy and are keeping silent because of the fear of being exposed, embarrassment, vulnerability, and shame. Join a discreet support group. You may do an internet search or go to MeetUp.com and locate one in your area. Lastly, forgive that person (or persons). It doesn’t mean that what they did is excused; it just means that your life is too precious to waste another millisecond in the role of victim. Forgiveness isn’t for them. It’s for you.

Q: What can someone who truly cares do to help an adult friend when they learn about their childhood experience?

Erika:  Refrain from saying, “I know how you feel” if you haven’t experienced it. Listen with an open heart, offer your support, and help them to find a professional who can help them to work through it. Also, don’t patronize them because of it. It’s bad enough they have lived with it for so long. They don’t need people to feel sorry for them.

Q: What is your advice for victims who are ready to move out of the darkness that has been their life?

Erika:  First, congratulations for making that decision for yourself! Depending on where you are with it, you may choose to take it slow and talk with just one trusted source, or you may be ready for a group. Or, you may want to do lectures about it, or write a book to expose this under-represented epidemic. Either way, start talking.

Q: Can you provide 2-3 resource links that you believe are the most helpful for victims of sexual abuse?

Erika: www.MaleSurvivor.org (because it’s not just girls who are victims), ASCA (Adult Survivors of Child Abuse) www.ascasupport.org, HAVOCA (Help for Adult Victims of Child Abuse) www.HAVOCA.org

 

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