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Know Your Truth

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fotolia_8699262_Subscription_LOne very important way to get the most satisfaction out of your life is to learn to know YOUR authentic truth…not what you THINK is your truth. It is hard to see sometimes because we tend to pick up on what others see FOR us. In our need for approval, our need to be part of a “tribe,” we are often influenced by what others think we should be doing. They are eager to tell us because it validates their own choices…their opinions…THEIR soul choices. So how do you know when something is truly your truth? The easiest way is to notice how it feels in your gut. Does it delight you? Does it feel like something awesome and new?

If an idea, a feeling, a desire feels really good to you, you might be tempted to share it with others for validation. Sometimes in doing that our direction is thwarted because the person we are sharing it with doesn’t have the same feeling for it that we do. No one else can be expected to “get” what you are feeling because it is unique only to you. Sometimes sharing with others can crush a seedling of an idea before it is ready to stand on its own. Treat an idea that feels so good like a delicate sprout that needs to fill out before being put on stage for review. Don’t give up on it, just hold it close to the vest for a while and give it time to develop.

There are many reasons why people may want to discourage an idea you have…many of those reasons are good, some are bad.

Best Intentions:

They want to protect you from embarrassment

They are concerned about your finances

They have seen you try something similar in the past that didn’t work

They don’t want you to push yourself out of your comfort zone

Not so great intentions:

They are jealous

They don’t trust their own ideas

They fear your success will take you away from them

Well enough of that! But how on EARTH do you learn to trust your own judgment about what is right for you…what is your truth, your soul’s purpose?

There are many exercises you can do to develop an improved dialogue with your higher self so that you can learn to better trust your own judgment. You may make mistakes in this learning process, but you will learn…and you get stronger for the effort.

Here is a process I have been doing myself for years and it has really helped me. At first, I recommend doing this simple process daily if you can. I developed this process when I came to understand that we are made up of several different “bodies” that either work together or against each other. After you do this simple exercise a few times you will get an idea of what I am talking about. The four bodies are physical, emotional, mental, and soul or spiritual.

  • First find a quiet place to either sit or stand for a few minutes. Then ask how your physical body feels, and what it needs … is it tired, rested, strong? Your physical body consists of your muscles, your bones, your organs, your skin…you get the idea. So ask how the physical aspect of your total self is feeling at the moment and wait a minute to hear an answer.
  • Next ask to get in touch with your emotional body. I usually start by putting my attention in the heart area, and then ask how you are feeling “emotionally” at the moment. Are you happy, sad, neutral, anxious, etc. Ask how the emotional aspect of your total self is feeling at the moment and wait a minute to hear an answer.
  • Next you will ask to get a reading of your mental body. That involves your mind and your nervous system. Is your mind working quickly today or are you a bit fuzzy? Ask how that aspect of your total self is feeling at the moment and wait a minute to hear an answer.
  • Then, finally, ask for your higher self or soul body to become fully engaged with the other three bodies and ask to bring all aspects (bodies) into focus with each other. I usually feel a deep sense of relaxation at this stage.

At this point, you can trust what you are thinking and feeling. You can trust your own inner voice. It may take a few days of trying this to identify your different bodies, and that is just fine. Simply ask, listen, and then move on to the next step even if you don’t hear anything.

The reason to recognize and honor each of the different bodies is really simple. We know that if we are emotionally upset, we might make bad mental decisions. We know that if we are physically tired, we may snap at someone emotionally.

Think of it as like when you go to the doctor to have your eyes examined. When they flip the different lenses in front of your eye, each layer improves or worsens your vision. When you are making decisions, ALL your bodies are involved in the process, and if one is out of whack, it will affect your decision-making process.

This is just one of the many things you can do to develop a trust in the wisdom of your higher self as your best councilor…to guide you to your own truth. There are many “roads to Rome” and I humbly present this as just one of them … worth giving a try.

Finding Simplicity In Midlife

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Fotolia_33712338_Subscription_XXLOur lives seem to be so complex with never enough time to get everything done that we think needs to be done. We rush through our day often moving from event to event without the time to really engage with or relish any experience. We end up tired, frustrated, and sick always searching for that magical moment in our lives. Could the magic be right in front of us every day but in our rush to accomplish what we committed to do we do not even see it.

Midlife invites us to examine our life to see if it is really working for us or if we are just going through the motions doing what someone else or some institution told us would bring joy, success, and fulfillment. This conscious midlife journey is either by personal choice to enhance an already fulfilling life or because of life circumstances that leave us with no choice but to rebuild a life that has fallen apart. The amazing thing to remember is that sometimes things fall apart so they can come together again in a much more meaningful and productive life.

No matter how we get to this space in midlife, let’s look at finding the beauty, the joy, and the magic in simplicity. Life is really pretty basic and we seem to make it extremely complicated. What if in midlife we chose to:

  • Slow down and only commit to what really brings us joy
  • Take the time to take care of us so we have the health and energy to live life
  • Show up as our authentic self as opposed to being patriarchies puppet
  • Live with purpose and passion to inspire others as opposed to impress others
  • Realize that life is about relationships not accumulation of titles and possessions

The magic is in the simple everyday moments in life that most of us miss rushing to the next big event in our life. The magic is in slowing down our life to connect with what really matters for us and our family. To simplify is to find the magic within us and the magic in the world all around us in the sunshine, a stranger’s smile, a child’s laughter, a fragrant lilac, the leaves dancing in the breeze, or the moon kissing our face. The magic is in following our passion and saying no to what does not resonate within us. We don’t have to please or impress anyone. It is our life. Keep it simple. There is profound truth, beauty, wisdom, joy, and happiness in taking the time to engage authentically with what truly matters in our hearts.

We will not find the magic in the chaos of busyness but in the simple moments of connection to our authentic self. Slow down to create a life that gives us optimum health, balanced energy, creativity, and the time to engage fully in what renews and ignites our spirit. Midlife allows us to see the world and our place in it much differently if we choose. When we slow down to reflect on what really matters to us, we can prioritize which actually creates more quality time in our life. Instead of doing everything for everyone wearing us out, we can focus on our purpose so we uplift both us and humanity with our gifts.

Risking Your Health and Wellness

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The greatest danger for most of us is not that our aim is too high and we miss it, but that it is too low and we reach it. – Michelangelo

This quote by Michelangelo gets right to the root of why most folks never accomplish what they dream of creating in their health and wellness and their life.

We are afraid to risk, and so our aim in life is to just get by. We allow our fear of taking risk to stop us from trying to make a better life.

When we think of risk it is usually in the form of taking some action and the possibilities of not succeeding.

For you to achieve your desires you must take risk. Risk allows for growth. For growth to happen there will always be resistance in the process.

A person who never risks and plays it safe is actually holding themselves back from being more, having more, and experiencing more.

Think of starting a business, or buying a house or investing money, or starting / ending a relationship or starting a health and fitness program to get healthy. Each comes with the risk of not succeeding and the possibility of ending up right back where you started.

When we think deeply on the subject of risk we can take each one of those negative possibilities of loss and ask what is at risk if we do not take the actions to be successful in those endeavors. What are we risking then?

That is in my opinion is the way to look at a situation. It is the possibilities of what you will never create if you do not risk.

There are two sides to every coin. In fact my mentor Paul Chek says there are three sides, the positive, the negative and the edge of the coin, which states the potential to create the positive.

You should never be afraid of risk. Risk doesn’t mean to haphazardly jump into something, but instead using a calculated thought out process. You should get excited in knowing that if there is risk there is also gain. We should always and only focus on the gain.

In my view there is little to no risk in beginning a health and wellness lifestyle. When done sensibly you can only improve your state of health and wellness. The real risk comes if you don’t give yourself the gift of health and wellness. By doing nothing you will progressively move towards dysfunction illness and disease.

When thinking about creating health and wellness we should also apply these questions.

  • What are you risking by not taking care of your health and wellness?
  • What are you risking by creating a healthy lifestyle.

You’ll see by your answers that the risks of not taking care of your health and wellness is far greater than risks of creating a healthy lifestyle.

I would love to help you create happiness, health and wellness in your life.

I wish for you a vibrant life!  David E. Fresilli

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www.holistichealth-fitness.com

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Detox From Negative Thinking

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detox from negative thinkingWhat is the first thing you think of when you awaken? What is the last thought you have before you go to bed? Those are two of the first questions I ask my clients when they are in a funk.

Choosing to be soul-cially conscious, to live a more blissful life, takes work. How we begin and end each day sets the tone for our daily lives.

Abraham-Hicks said, “You have the ability to pivot under any and all conditions. But most of you are habitual in nature, and your patterns are so well entrenched that at times the fastest path to the joy you seek is for you to take your pivot as you sleep. By reaching for good-feeling thoughts before you go to sleep and then experiencing the benefit of the quiet mind that occurs while you sleep—and then upon awakening, immediately turning to good-feeling thoughts—you can accomplish the ultimate Pivoting experience.”

Whether you are spiritual/religious or not, every minute gives you an opportunity to count your “blissings”, those little (sometimes big) things in life that bring a sense of peace, joy and contentment.

Studies have shown that by practicing being grateful we experience lower levels of depression and stress, we are more optimistic about the future, we exercise more, we are more likely to reach personal goals, and we increase our capacity for compassion and forgiveness, including forgiving ourselves.

Additional research shows that in as little as 21 days we can form long-lasting habits. A habit is merely pattern of behavior that we have either consciously or subconsciously adopted.

We are creatures of habit. You can create a new habit and detox from negative thinking by beginning and ending each day with a joyful, positive thought, one that includes gratitude for the abundance in your life.

The first and last words I say to myself everyday are very simple:   “Thank you, God, I am breathing, I am alive, and I am connected to something”.

For the next 21 days, I challenge you to begin a new habit of detoxing from negative thinking by waking up and falling asleep with a grateful heart! One simple thought could be all it takes.

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