“Are you serious?” my friend asked the man at the counter. She had just returned to the post office after he suggested that she come back in an hour because their computer system was down. And, an hour later, it was still down.
“Yes, Ma’am, it’s still down. I’m sorry about that.”
My friend looked at him and smiled. “It’s not your fault,” she replied as she was leaving. “Enjoy your afternoon.”
She took the 30 lb. box from the counter and returned to her car, and sighed. This was the second post office she visited that day, as well as a box and ship store. Of three establishments, none were able to ship the box for her.
The task to which she allotted about an hour of her time ended up taking two days. When she told me about it, she shrugged her shoulders and laughed. “When the third store didn’t work out, I knew I was at the mercy of the box.”
My friend didn’t recognize that her intentions had finally come to fruition. Her life experience had been an immersion course in impatience, which impacted her family, killed friendships and compromised her health. Once she decided to change her life by asking for patience and calm, she had experience after experience that challenged her: a work promotion and raise that took longer than scheduled, flight delays, getting stuck behind slow drivers, and finally, the 30 lb. box.
She laughed when she finally put together the puzzle pieces: her intentions created the experiences that helped her fulfill her wish. Because she wanted patience, she created situations that would normally breed impatience, inviting her, over and over again, to make a different choice. She told me that she now feels a sense of accomplishment and freedom that feel like a miracle!
Have you asked for attributes such as patience or strength and wonder why things suddenly feel like they got tough? Here’s what you can do to put together the puzzle pieces:
- IDENTIFY the attribute you are working on in one of these ways:
*Think about what you may have casually asked for in your heart of hearts. You may have a secret wish in the realm of self-improvement that you may have put it into action without being aware of it; or
*See if there is a pattern of events happening recently that require you to show up more fully in ways that call on you to be patient or strong and trace it back to one of your self-improvement goals.
- NOTICE when you have an experience that irritates you.
- CHECK to see if it is calling you to practice the attribute you want to incorporate (such as being patient or strong)
- ACKNOWLEDGE yourself when you choose to practice patience or strength, understanding that the experiences are a perfect reflection of your self-improvement intentions.
It only takes a little bit of imagination to allow your life to become on purpose, even in ways that initially feel non-preferred. Once you practice the art of saying, “This experience serves me exactly as-is, even if I can’t yet identify how,” you will connect with your wondrous freedom of choice, reconnect with your creativity, and enjoy your future adventures with some extra pep in your step!